May 31, 2006

It’s 9dpo…guess what’s happening???

Posted in TTC woes at 8:59 am by Erin

I’m spotting.  Heavily.  Now, as if that weren’t enough, guess what I did this morning.

I wore white underwear.

Apparently I don’t even learn from my own blatant stupidity.

Well, we may have a change of plans for next cycle.  J just settled a large case that they didn’t expect to settle, and he and his partner will soon be splitting a good deal of money.  (Mind you, this is a "good deal of money" to someone who has been earning a graduate student stipend for the last 5 1/2 years.)  So we may be able to do an IUI next cycle.  I mentioned it half-jokingly to J last night when he told me about the settlement and, while he didn’t say "Yes, let’s do that," he also didn’t say no.  He’s come to realize that that is the next step and is OK with it, particularly since it won’t ruin the "fun parts of TTC".  So we’ll be making that decision in the next few days.

Now the only forseeable problem is that J’s family is coming to town: parents, aunt, uncle, and a cousin.  5 people.  They get here next Thursday and were supposed to leave on Sunday, which would have been a perfectly lovely and doable visit.  Then they called J and asked if they could stay until Wednesday, since his mom’s birthday is Tuesday.  Which makes for a full week that we’ll be feeding and housing FIVE extra people.  The last time J’s parents stayed for a full week was when P was 3 weeks old.  After that, I swore never to have visitors who stayed for such a long visit, and that was only the two of them.  But it’s not like I can say anything about it.  Who’s going to kick out their MIL on her birthday?

So this may impact our plans.  They’ll be gone by IUI time, which is good, but will be here throughout Clomid time (which won’t help my mood at having visitors for so long) and will likely be here when I have to get blood work and the u/s done.  What excuse do I use for getting out of the house that morning?

Another issue is that I have to teach MCAT classes from 3-9 (not including travel time) on Sunday.  That wouldn’t have been a problem if they were leaving that day, but now it’s awkward because they tend to expect our company exclusively while they’re in town.  If I’d known they were staying through the day, I would have arranged for a sub.  As it is, there’s no time to do that now.

And the biggest problem is that I teach Bradley classes in my house on Tuesday evenings, when they will still be here.  I told J that they’re all going to have to clear out of the house that night–I can’t have a houseful of people when I’m trying to teach.  These couples have paid me quite a bit of money and they deserve to have as few distractions as possible while at my house.  So I’m not sure what they’re all going to do, but that one I’m chalking up to "Not my problem as long as they’re out of the house from 7 to 9."

I’m just rambling at this point.  Keep your fingers crossed about that IUI!  Now, off to buy more underwear.  Not white.



  1. elecriclady said,

    Wow, that is a looooong time to have visitors. Any visitors, but family especially. I think by Sunday you will probably be delighted to be able to get out of the house alone, and to hell with entertaining them. πŸ™‚

  2. Erin said,

    Tell me about it. I was looking forward to it when it was 4 days. No longer.
    You’re right, I’ll be happy to go out of the house that day. Heck, just being in the car by myself will probably be a treat!

  3. Gravida Zero said,

    I just found your blog today and I am so excited! I am on clomid and awaiting my first IUI. AND…my in laws are really annoying too! We have so much in common. And I can say from expirence that clomid+ visiting in-laws is bad news. It bascially had me feeling like a mad, fat rhinoceros for 5 days.

  4. Courtney said,

    Arghhh–I think you are actually taking this extended visit in stride quite well, under the circumstances.
    You should NOT feel at all bad about the class you are teaching, given that they changed the plan (and you could use the income right now, so it’d be a LOT to expect you to skip work, I think). And, as has been noted, it will be a nice reprieve to get away for a nice chunk of time.
    And, yes, you are perfectly reasonable to expect the house to be dedicated to the Bradley class.

  5. Christy said,

    I’m so sorry that you’re spotting (and about the underwear, though I’m sure that’s the least of your concerns ….) If you need an escape during their stay, come on down! And I’m at work on Monday and Thursday, so you would only have to share the solitude with a freshly shaved cat. πŸ™‚ Just tell the IL’s that you’re stepping out to pick up a little heroin and that sometimes your dealer takes a while.

  6. Erin said,

    I love you all πŸ™‚
    Gravida, it’s very nice to “meet” you–I just clicked over to your blog and saw that you’re LDS. My husband J is also, though he’s mostly non-practicing. I’ll look forward to reading your blog.
    Courtney, I agree and have no qualms about going in on Sunday. Or about making them vacate the house. If they don’t like it, well, they’re already upset that we’re going to to adopt non-white children, so it can’t really make things worse.
    Christy, I greatly appreciate the offer of the house and shaved cat. I burst out laughing when I read your comment, because I was picturing my MIL’s totally speechless, gape-mouthed reaction if I actually said that and then gaily walked out of the house. Wow, I’m so tempted πŸ™‚ Had a fun walk yesterday, also–we’ll have to do it again soon!

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