November 28, 2007

Grief and devastation

Posted in All ahead to adoption at 5:20 pm by Erin

M has cerebral palsy.  Pretty severe cerebral palsy.  Cerebral palsy was something that, months ago when J and I were filling out the list of special needs that we could accept and not accept, we decided that we weren’t prepared to handle.

We’re still not prepared to handle it.

We’ve declined the referral.

I am heartbroken.

Advertisements

33 Comments »

  1. lauren said,

    =(….I am SO sorry!
    …I dont relaly know what else to say honey….

  2. lucky#2 said,

    How heartbreaking. I am so sorry for your devastating news. I wish I could hug you.

  3. My Reality said,

    Oh Erin, I am so sorry.

  4. It’s so heartbreaking – this starting and stopping and constant pulling on your heart.
    I’m praying for a positive turn of events soon. I’ve been following your story for so long and I was so thrilled along with you to learn about M.
    I’ll keep thinking about you.

  5. Katrina said,

    Oh noooooo! I am so sorry.

  6. DinoD said,

    I’m so sorry Erin. So sorry.
    DinoD

  7. sky girl said,

    What a tough decision. I’m sorry. I can only imagine how torn up you must be.
    xo

  8. Waiting Amy said,

    Erin, I’m so sorry. That is indeed heartbreaking. It is also a decision that I can understand completely. But I difficult one, nonetheless.
    I hope your heart can start healing and good news will come your way soon.

  9. Dawn said,

    Oh, Erin. I am so so so sorry. I can not imagine your heartbreak after receiving your referral and then having to decline this child who probably already felt like part of your family.
    I am hoping for good news soon and for your hearts to heal from this sadness.

  10. artsweet said,

    Oh Erin,
    I am so very sorry.
    How totally heartbreaking.
    Praying for peace for you and your family and for little M.
    AS

  11. thalia said,

    oh erin, I’m so very sorry. Such a lovely boy, so sad to think he won’t be your son.

  12. Donnie said,

    Oh no.
    Oh no, how awfull. I am so sorry, Erin. Did they not know about his condition when they sent you his referral?
    I’m so sorry.
    I wish I could do more.
    -D.

  13. Betsy said,

    Wow, I can’t even imagine having to make such a heartbreaking decision. I’m so sorry for you guys.

  14. Meg said,

    Oh god, Erin. I am so sorry.

  15. Maren said,

    Oh, I am so sorry. You are in my thoughts.

  16. Artblog said,

    Oh Erin, couldn’t they have warned you before they got your hopes up?
    I’m so sorry for your disappointment 😦
    HUGS and XXXXXX

  17. Lisa said,

    Erin-
    I am so so sorry….what a rollercoaster this has been for you guys….
    Lisa

  18. Samantha said,

    Oh Erin, I’m so sorry. What a difficult and devastating decision you had to make. I’ll be thinking of you.

  19. Sharona said,

    So very very sorry.

  20. Amy said,

    ((Erin and family). I am so sorry, just so so sorry.

  21. Jitters said,

    Oh Erin, my heart goes out to you and your family. I am just so sad. So, so sad for you and for M.
    I know you know that another referral will come along quickly, but being in the process also, I know that is not the only issue. That medical form was so hard to complete just imagining the children so I can hardly imagine how you feel.
    My heart is truly breaking for you. Please be kind to yourself and trust your decision.

  22. Alexa said,

    Oh no. I am so terribly sorry.

  23. Shanna said,

    I’m heartbroken for you, Erin. So, so, so sorry. 😦

  24. electriclady said,

    Oh Erin. I am so sorry. How heartbreaking.

  25. JJ said,

    I am so so so sorry Erin…MANY prayers for you and your family.

  26. Christy said,

    Oh Erin, what absolutely terrible news. I’m so, so sorry and will be praying for peace.

  27. Jenn said,

    I’m so sorry…

  28. DD said,

    Erin…oh, honey…
    I’m so sorry. I don’t even know what more to say but know that my thoughts are with all of you and I offer nothing but support of your decision.

  29. Ms. C said,

    Oh Erin…
    I was away and am just catching up on all the develpments. I am so very very sorry.
    My thoughts are with you, J and P.

  30. JessPond said,

    Oh Erin, no. I’m so sorry. Prayers and hugs to you guys. I hope you get another referral soon…
    AND that you heal more quickly than you could think possible. (Because another referral won’t take this away…two seperate things, of course.)
    It’s strong of you to know that this is something you can’t handle, and brave for you to decline. He’ll have a family more able to accept his issues this way…you are doing the right thing.

  31. JessPond said,

    I dont’ think my comment took. I tried to post already, so if it’s double, that’s why.
    Oh Erin, no. I’m so sorry. Prayers and hugs to you guys. I hope you get another referral soon…
    AND that you heal more quickly than you could think possible. (Because another referral won’t take this away…two seperate things, of course.)
    It’s strong of you to know that this is something you can’t handle, and brave for you to decline. He’ll have the right family who are prepared to deal with his issues this way…you are doing the right thing.

  32. Krista said,

    Oh Erin how devestating, I am so very, very sorry.

  33. Dianne said,

    I am so sorry. But, I am glad to hear there is another family willing to take M and that there may be another little one out there for you.


Leave a Reply

Fill in your details below or click an icon to log in:

WordPress.com Logo

You are commenting using your WordPress.com account. Log Out / Change )

Twitter picture

You are commenting using your Twitter account. Log Out / Change )

Facebook photo

You are commenting using your Facebook account. Log Out / Change )

Google+ photo

You are commenting using your Google+ account. Log Out / Change )

Connecting to %s

%d bloggers like this: