March 24, 2009

Didn’t mean to panic you all!

Posted in The musings of Erin at 7:26 pm by Erin

J closed his law firm, but it was a conscious decision and thankfully NOT made due to economic necessity.  Without going into many details, he wasn't happy with the field of law that he'd somehow gotten into.  He'd left a law firm of the same type to open his own because he didn't like doing it, but took a couple of cases when things were tough at first.  Somehow, that ballooned into being the only thing he was doing because a) the money was good, and b) he's really good at it.  But he was miserable doing it, which was not good for anyone in our family.

So he decided to call it quits.  He wasn't interested in trying to switch focuses for the firm and he was a little tired of working so very hard with so little ultimate payoff–everytime the money got really good, the workload was too big and so he had to hire someone else.  At his max, he employed 5 people and it was a huge amount of stress.

We planned for it and knew it was coming, and saved up about 8 months of living expenses at our current standard before he closed.  So it isn't stressful for us financially to have him out of work, which is huge in this economy (seriously–we're still planning to take the kids to Disney in May and a vacation for our 10th anniversary in June).  And it's been less stressful for our family as well, because he's not so unhappy and miserable and working 5 million hours a week.  We like him–it's nice to see him every once in a while 😉

Thankfully, he can get temp work as a lawyer at any time if we need it or he gets bored searching for the perfect job.  It would be enough to cover what my (very limited) income does not cover, and gives him a lot of flexibility in terms of time.  But right now, he's enjoying not having to work like crazy and I'm really glad he's getting a break.

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March 20, 2009

There’s a lot going on

Posted in The musings of Erin at 1:10 pm by Erin

It's messing with me in ways that I hadn't expected.  So my blog has been silent. 

During the days, something will happen and I think "Oh, I have to blog about that!"  Then I sit at my computer and no words come into my head.  Nothing cohesive.  Nothing insightful.  Not even anything whiny.  Just nothing.

I don't know what to write.  I can't even seem to call people I know IRL.  I don't e-mail back.  I don't think I'm particularly depressed.  I just don't seem to have anything to give. 

But just so you know, K is better from his pneumonia.

That's all I can write now.

January 13, 2009

It’s always fun

Posted in The musings of Erin at 8:50 pm by Erin

To get your period 3 hours before your birthday, with nary a cramp of warning.  It only comes every 7 weeks or so, and it has to start now?  I thought I had two more days.  Sheesh!  I guess I can forget about my birthday nookie.

I guess the lack of cramps WAS my birthday present.  The bar is set very low for J :-) 

January 5, 2009

You know you want to do it…

Posted in The musings of Erin at 7:49 pm by Erin

Everyone wants to do it, but only a few are brave enough.

Come on, you can do it.

I know you can.

I know how much you want to.

You want to…comment.

Comment often.

Comment here.

Comment this week.

Because…

It's National Delurking Week of 2009!

Two years ago, I donated $1 for every commenter on my National Delurking Week post to Resolve.  This year, I'm going to do the same thing, but I'm splitting it between Resolve and AHOPE, an orphanage for HIV+ children in Ethiopia.  So comment!  Impoverish me!  Help me forget that we're supposed to get an additional 3-5" of rain around here, guaranteed to keep me depressed!  Raise money for infertility and children in need!

You know you want to…

December 31, 2008

I’m doing it again with the resolutions

Posted in The musings of Erin at 3:14 pm by Erin

Last year I made some resolutions, and I think I did pretty well with them.  The environmental stuff, check.  I am happy with what I've done for this year, and have some new things planned for next year.  The organization…not quite as good as I was hoping, but somewhat better considering I had a second child for most of the year.  The exercise.  Um, yeah, forget about that one.  I was doing really well with jogging until I got that whole pneumonia thing in September, and that killed it.  By the time I was over that and the sinus infection that soon followed it, it was too cold for me to jog without triggering my asthma.  But we got a Wii for Hanukkah (J is the best husband ever, have I mentioned that?) and I'm going to get a Wii Fit as soon as I can find one.  I'm really excited about it.

So this year, I have several resolutions:

1) More blogging!  2009 promises to be a busy year for us in terms of building our family.  We're tentatively planning to do IVF in August, unless some miracle pregnancy happens before then.  (And without the miscarriage this time, thank you very much.)  If it works, fabulous.  If not, we're planning on starting the paperwork for adopting siblings from Ethiopia in November, right when K turns 3.  And if the IVF works, we'll push off starting the paperwork for the siblings until 2010–but it is definitely in the future.

2) An actual vacation without the kids/second honeymoon.  Our 10th anniversary is coming up in June, and it sometimes felt like we would never get here.  Although I haven't been talking about it here, we've been seeing a marriage counselor for several months and it has been doing a lot of good for us.  We've already asked my ILs to come out and watch the kids for 5 days or a week while we go on a trip.  Right now I'm thinking Costa Rica, although it will be hot, but I'm open to suggestions (which reminds me, I need to get my passport renewed).  J likes to do stuff while on vacation–he really can't do the beach for more than a day or two because he gets bored.  Suggestions?

3) Trying the organization thing again.  I think I need more motivation to keep organized.  Remind me how great it is to be organized!

OK, I'm limiting it to 3 again.  What are yours?

December 18, 2008

Last one at the party

Posted in The musings of Erin at 7:39 pm by Erin

The Facebook party, that is.

A friend finally nagged me into joining it (after many months of her nagging me about it) and finally, I gave in since I never use My*Space anymore.  Not that I really used it a lot in the beginning.  Something about already having two blogs (oh yeah, and family + full-time job) kind of limits my time for things like that.  But I decided to give it a whirl anyway.

It has been 3 days.  I have 135 friends now.  Half of them are people whose name I saw and said "Oh my GOSH, I haven't thought of that person in 10 years–I MUST add them to my list right now!!!"  Some of them are even people I've thought of several times over the past 10 years and had no idea how to get in touch with them.  It's nice to see them on there again, and to catch up.

But oh my hell, can I tell you how STRANGE it is to see some of them?  Some of the people that I knew in college as complete partiers/random hook-ups every other weekend/cheated on not one but two of my friends (hypothetically, of course) are now respectable people.  Most of them are married, some of them are divorced, some are parents, some live in the city, some even live here in Atlanta.  Weird.  A guy I used to hang out with in college (just friends) sent me a message saying something about "I remember you–you were the cute cherubic one…"  Cherubic.  Ha!  I didn't know there was anything cherubic about me, but OK–I'm fine with being remembered as cherubic.

Anyway, I've requested friendship with some of you if I know your real names.  If you're interested and I haven't already done that, e-mail me at pcosbaby at gmail dot com and I'll let you know mine so that we can be Facebook friends!  I tend to post inane little status updates and write on people's walls every once in a while.

December 15, 2008

Now the fun begins

Posted in The musings of Erin at 8:18 am by Erin

I had to deal with an awkward situation yesterday.  So I promptly did what any good girl does–and asked my mom for help.

P got a present the other day from my aunt and uncle (my mom's brother and his wife).  However, J opened the outer box and thought it was a Hanukkah present, so we put it aside and hadn't opened it yet.  Yesterday I found the packing slip and saw that it said "Happy birthday!"

Then I realized the problem.  The same aunt and uncle didn't even send a card for K's birthday, which was two weeks before P's.  Erm…..

My children will be treated equally by family when it comes to things like birthdays and holidays.  If one gets something for his birthday, the other should also.  Especially since their birthdays are so close together.  And if one child gets something and the other doesn't, I'm perfectly willing to send something back and explain why.  I was about to do that when I stopped and thought for a second.

This aunt and uncle are very nice people, and I would have a VERY hard time believing that they deliberately didn't send something for K.  Instead, what I realized is that maybe they don't know when K's birthday happens.  It's a stretch, since I think they know that my parents came down for K's birthday party a few weeks ago, but I am willing to give them the benefit of the doubt.

Still, I am a coward.  Instead of calling them myself, I called my mom and asked her what I should do.  I said that maybe they didn't know when K's birthday was, or perhaps the gift was supposed to be to both of them (though the packing slip was clearly only to P, and the gift is almost definitely for a 5-year-old and not a 2-year-old–we haven't opened it yet).  And said "What do I do???"  She offered to call and ask them if perhaps it was for both of the kids.  Coward that I am, I took her up on it.  She left them a message and asked them to call her or me to let one of us know.

I still haven't heard from either my mom again, or my aunt and uncle.  If we haven't heard from one of them by the end of the week, I'm going to be in the very uncomfortable position of having to return the gift and say "Thank you, but we want the kids to be recognized equally."

I feel awkward saying something like that because my kids don't need presents, but it feels like I'm asking for more presents for them.  They'd be perfectly happy with a card*…both of them love to get mail and cards are a wonderful treat for them.

Any ideas on how to better word it, or how to deal with the situation in a better way?  I had heard of situations like this happening before, but I am shocked that we are dealing with it.  And because it is this aunt and uncle, I am willing to give them the benefit of the doubt–for a few days.  While I know K is too young to figure anything like this out now, I would rather deal with it while he is too young than later when he's old enough to remember.

Any help would be much appreciated.

*My mom's sister this year announced to my mom that she was going to stop sending birthday cards for her "greats" because it was just too much.  Guess how many great-nephews my aunt has?  Two.  My kids.  That's it.  We brought home a second one and all of a sudden it is too much.  In the past, she's always sent P a card with $10.  In my mind, you take out the $10, spend $2 of it on a card for K, and send the kids cards.  Don't ignore them entirely. 

My mom is ticked off at her for that because my aunt's grandkids, 3-year-old twins, live nearby and so my parents are not only expected to give cards but also presents.  But my mom's grandkids don't get anywhere near the same courtesy.  Not even a card.

December 4, 2008

Is this a little nervy?

Posted in The musings of Erin at 7:27 am by Erin

P's birthday party is coming up on Sunday.  It's at the Children's Museum, which has P very excited because he wanted a party there after going to one last year.  I thought it was going to be too expensive because we have five million kids invited, but they had this great special…

Oops, slightly off-topic.

One of P's friends RSVPd yes several weeks ago, but his mom e-mailed me yesterday to say that there was a conflict and she didn't think she'd be able to take him.  That was fine, I totally understand that things come up.

Then she asked if we could bring her son with us.

Were this a party in a confined place, that probably wouldn't be a problem.  If all the kids were in one room that was for our exclusive use the whole time, we could manage it.  But at the Children's Museum, the kids are in the room for an hour and then they are free to use the museum for as long as they want.  All of that is on the invitation.  And the museum is open to the public.  Once you're out of the room, you could be anywhere for as long as you want.

I was a little surprised that someone would ask us to babysit their child at our child's birthday party, when we've already got two kids of our own to watch in the museum–and we have social responsibilities to the other guests (who will each have a parent there). 

I did respond that I thought it would be too much for us and I was sorry but I just didn't think we could manage it.  But am I being oversensitive for feeling like this was quite an imposition?

December 3, 2008

Let’s play “Good news, bad news”!

Posted in The musings of Erin at 9:06 am by Erin

Good news: it's not iritis!

Bad news: it's a corneal infection

Good news: it's not contagious!

Bad news: it's going to require a long course of treatment

Good news: it can be treated with antibiotics!

Bad news: I'll have to wear my glasses* the whole time it's being treated

Good news: feeling much better about it all now!

Bad news: now I have to shell out for a new pair of glasses at the holidays, because the prescription in my old ones is at least 5 years old (since I never wear them except when I'm reading in bed at night)

Good news: I will be OK!

And that's where I'll stop.  Thanks so much for the good wishes!

*I hate my glasses.  I can never see as well with them, they get fogged up and smeary all the time, and K always tries to grab them off my face.  This is going to be challenging.

December 2, 2008

Slightly freaked out

Posted in The musings of Erin at 1:37 pm by Erin

Most people who have a red eye have pinkeye, right?  Common assumption.

No, not me.  I have iritis, or at least my doctor thinks I do.

I got my prescription for antibiotics for pinkeye while in Utah, because my doctor felt that was what it was.  Started using them Sunday morning.  I could open my eye without writhing in pain within a few hours, though I still had some bad light sensitivity.  But hey, I could open my eye!  The pain that was bad enough to wake me up the night before was gone!  (Eye pain that severe may be the worst pain I've ever felt, no kidding.  And I did natural, no drugs at all, childbirth with P.)  It was all good.

Monday: though my eye felt pretty good, it was still red.  And still a little swollen.  And by the end of the day, it ached just a bit.  But worse than that was the fact that my vision was going screwy.  I couldn't focus on things well, which made driving in Atlanta scary as can be.  My eyes would focus on something then the left one would go out of focus, which would make the right one go out of focus.  It would be that way for a bit and then clear up.  And then happen again.

So I called the office and they got me in late morning.  The PA looked at my eye and said "I don't think it's pinkeye, I think it's iritis."  They didn't want to treat it there, so I got a referral for the opthamologist.  At that point, I said that I would make an appointment for Thursday morning–and the referrals person said "Honey, we'd really like you to go in as soon as possible.  I'm going to call and see if I can get you in now."

That was when I got nervous. 

I told her I had a class at 2 (and had absolutely no way to have it covered, so I had to be there), so she made me an appointment for 1.  I drove over.  By 1:15 when I hadn't been called yet, I asked and they said that the doctors weren't even back from lunch yet.  So I rescheduled for 8 a.m. tomorrow morning and went to class.

Then I came back and looked up iritis.  And now I'm a little worried.  The symptoms are exactly what I'm feeling.  Every one. 

This says that iritis can be caused by blunt trauma to the eye but is usually associated with a systemic autoimmune problem or a viral infection (not a simple cold-type virus, but more serious and often chronic ones).  As far as I know, I don't have any of those–but the Wik*pedia site mentioned that iritis can be the only symptom of one.  Maybe I do have one and just didn't know it until now.

So I'm a bit freaked out, and wishing that I had skipped class to get it taken care of today.  And am glad that I have an appointment in the morning.

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